Texas bride shares detailed SURVEY she used to determine bridesmaids’ budgets, dress preferences

A Texas bride-to-be has revealed the very thorough method she used to organize all of

A Texas bride-to-be has revealed the very thorough method she used to organize all of her bridesmaids for her big day — and take into account their preferences, concerns, and budgets.

Talia Morales, 29, is set to tie the know to Eulalio Wolfe, 30, in December of this year, and she took to TikTok to explain the trick she employed to communicate easily and effectively with her bridal party.

Talia turned to Google Forms to create a survey that her friends could fill out, indicating how much money they were prepared to spend, how much time they could commit, and their thoughts on bridesmaids dresses, hair and makeup, and the bachelorette party.

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Prepared! Talia Morales, 29, is set to tie the know to Eulalio Wolfe, 30, in December of this year, and she took to TikTok to explain the trick she employed to communicate with her bridal party

Communication! She showed off the form she sent to her bridal party, which began with a clear explanation of what she expected from them

Communication! She showed off the form she sent to her bridal party, which began with a clear explanation of what she expected from them

Vision: She laid out what her color scheme and theme were for the event

Vision: She laid out what her color scheme and theme were for the event  

Wiggle room: She had them share their budget for bridesmaid dresses

Wiggle room: She had them share their budget for bridesmaid dresses

Talia explained that the easiest way that she found to communicate with her four bridesmaids and maid of honor was Google Forms.

‘In a group chat, yes we can talk, yes I can answer questions, but when I have to go back and check what they’re more comfortable with, what answers they gave me, it’s a little more difficult,’ she said. 

With Google Forms, she could send them a survey and keep track of what everyone wants.

She showed off the form she sent to her bridal party, which began with a clear explanation of what she expected from them. 

‘So what exactly [are] the bridal party’s responsibilities? In a nutshell, bridesmaids help plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party,’ she wrote. 

‘The maid of honor is in charge of the parties, but bridesmaids are expected to have ideas, give feedback, and help decorate. I would also really enjoy getting dolled up together before the ceremony on the big day!’

She asked them to indicate whether they'd like to get ready together the morning of the wedding, and specify whether they'd like to get their hair and makeup professionally done wedding

She also searched for a date to go shopping together

She asked them to indicate whether they’d like to get ready together the morning of the wedding, and specify whether they’d like to get their hair and makeup professionally done

'I'm not very picky on the style but I do want them to wear a specific style,' she said. 'Everybody has a different body type, so I'm open to any style but I do want the same color'

‘I’m not very picky on the style but I do want them to wear a specific style,’ she said. ‘Everybody has a different body type, so I’m open to any style but I do want the same color’

She had them share their bachelorette party ideas, availability, and how long they can be away for i

She finished with an open ended for questions or concern

Open book: She had them share their bachelorette party ideas, availability, and how long they can be away for it. She finished with an open ended for questions or concerns

‘There will be plenty of events in which I would love for you to all be a part of as well! (But if you can’t go to every single event, I completely understand! No worries, as long as you’re there for the wedding.)’

She then asked each of the women to fill out their name, indicate whether they’d like to get ready together the morning of the wedding, and specify whether they’d like to get their hair and makeup professionally done. 

‘We have to be very mindful of their spending, especially if they will be spending on their dress as well,’ she said.

She then asked them to share their budgets for the dress and the style they prefer, with photo examples.

‘I’m not very picky on the style but I do want them to wear a specific style and be uniform,’ she said. ‘Everybody has a different body type, so I’m open to any style but I do want the same color.’

Data: Talia said that what is so great about this method is that Google Forms will put the answers into charts, so she can see what everyone is in agreement on

Data: Talia said that what is so great about this method is that Google Forms will put the answers into charts, so she can see what everyone is in agreement on

'They will be standing next to me on one of the m she said

‘They will be standing next to me on one of the most memorable days of my life. The least I can do is be mindful of their spending and their time,’ she said

She had them give their availability to go dress shopping together, indicate what kind of shoes they are comfortable, and share their bachelorette party ideas, availability, and how long they can be away for it. 

She finished with an open ended for questions or concerns.

Talia said that what is so great about this method is that Google Forms will put the answers into charts, so she can see what everyone is in agreement on — and if there isn’t unanimous agreement, what everyone prefers.  

‘I understand that each of my bridesmaids have a different budget, style and schedule,’ she told Fox News. ‘They will be standing next to me on one of the most memorable days of my life. The least I can do is be mindful of their spending and their time.’

What she wants: A Texas bride-to-be went viral in June for her detailed list of expectations she has for her bridesmaids

What she wants: A Texas bride-to-be went viral in June for her detailed list of expectations she has for her bridesmaids

Lisa Torres, an auditor from San Antonio, gave each of the bridesmaids a letter outlining the events they'd need to attend, what she wanted them to wear, and how much they might spend

She included it in a bridesmaid proposal box

List: L isa Torres, an auditor from San Antonio, gave the bridesmaids a letter outlining the events they’d need to attend, what she wanted them to wear, and how much they might spend

In June, a Texas bride-to-be was similarly applauded for breaking down the detailed list of expectations she had for her bridesmaids.  

Lisa Torres, an auditor from San Antonio, is getting married next year, and has already asked friends to be her bridesmaids for the big day.

Along with sending them a gift, Lisa also delivered a letter explaining exactly what time commitments she expected of the ladies, as well as how much they should prepare to spend — and she hopes that she can encourage other brides to be equally transparent. 

Lisa said she knows from experience how unsettling it can be to agree to be a bridesmaid and then be blind sighted by costs and time commitments, and she didn’t want the same for her bridesmaids.

‘Before I got engaged, I was a bridesmaid before, and I wasn’t fully aware of all the costs and expectations associated with being a bridesmaid,’ she said.

‘I felt very insecure doing this — but I’m ultimately glad that I did — and that was [to] include a letter of what I expected for my bridal party,’ she went on.

‘And I just put it in this cute little envelope and included it as part of the bridesmaid proposal box. And in that letter, I outlined time commitments — so I told them if they live over an hour away, they don’t have to worry about making it to the bridal shower, or to go wedding dress shopping with me, it was fine. 

The schedule: She said they all must be at the bachelorette party, rehearsal dinner, and wedding, but would not be responsible for throwing a bridal shower

The schedule: She said they all must be at the bachelorette party, rehearsal dinner, and wedding, but would not be responsible for throwing a bridal shower

Spending: She shared an estimated cost for the bachelorette trip to Mexico, but said bridesmaids could choose their own dresses in her preferred color

Spending: She shared an estimated cost for the bachelorette trip to Mexico, but said bridesmaids could choose their own dresses in her preferred color

‘I also specified money commitments. So I told them I would pay for the hair and makeup, but that they would be responsible for the cost of the bridesmaid dress. Although they had freedom as to what style they wanted; I just wanted a specific color.

‘But most importantly, I told them that they could say no to being a bridesmaid, that we would still be friends, and that they could keep all gifts within their bridesmaid proposal box. And one of them said no, and we’re still good friends!’ she said.

Lisa went on to show off the double-sided paper on which she outlined her expectations.

The letter starts out by stressing to each person that their friendship is important to Lisa, and explains that she herself had been caught off guard by expectations of her as a bridesmaid in the past.

She included a list of requirements for wedding attire, including that dresses be a dusty rose color and accompanied by nude heels and nude or gold accessories.

She wrote that each woman can choose the style of her own dress and accessories, and are even free to buy secondhand or use something they already own.

Though she added that the average bridesmaid dress costs about $200, she noted that each woman could determine her own budget.

Setting a budget: The women could choose any dress style they wanted, at any price, as long as it was a dusty rose color

Setting a budget: The women could choose any dress style they wanted, at any price, as long as it was a dusty rose color

'Most importantly, I told them that they could say no to being a bridesmaid, that we would still be friends, and that they could keep all gifts within their bridesmaid proposal box,' she said

'And one of them said no, and we're still good friends!'

‘Most importantly, I told them that they could say no to being a bridesmaid, that we would still be friends, and that they could keep all gifts within their bridesmaid proposal box,’ she said

Next, she outlined the plans for the bachelorette party, which she is planning for an all-inclusive resort in Mexico in for four days in April of 2022. She expects airfare, drinks, and the resort to cost just $500 per person, though that estimate is based on prices in the middle of a pandemic.  

As for other potential costs, she cites accommodations for the night of the wedding as well as transportation, though adds that she is covering accommodations for the night of the rehearsal dinner.

There may also be custom T-shirts.

‘You don’t have to pay/host the bridal shower; I’m not even sure if I want one,’ she added, but said that if she does have one, everyone is encouraged to attend.

The rehearsal dinner, wedding day, and bachelorette party are all mandatory.

Finally, on the back of the paper, she included a FAQs section, which included the names of everyone she invited to be a bridesmaid.

It also said that she wouldn’t expect anyone to make changes to their appearance (like dying hair or losing weight) or postpone any of their own life events, because ‘that’s weird.’ 

Open: Lisa said she shared the list to 'normalize brides being transparent about what they expect from their bridal party, and also to allow bridesmaids to say no if they don't want to be part of that commitment'

Open: Lisa said she shared the list to ‘normalize brides being transparent about what they expect from their bridal party, and also to allow bridesmaids to say no if they don’t want to be part of that commitment’

Candid: She noted that brides can have widely different expectations for their bridesmaids, and this way 'everybody's on the same page'

Candid: She noted that brides can have widely different expectations for their bridesmaids, and this way ‘everybody’s on the same page’

At the end, she stressed that there would be no hard feelings if someone didn’t want to participate.  

Lisa said she shared the list to ‘normalize brides being transparent about what they expect from their bridal party, and also to allow bridesmaids to say no if they don’t want to be part of that commitment.’

She noted that brides can have widely different expectations for their bridesmaids, and this way ‘everybody’s on the same page.’ 

Speaking to BuzzFeed, she added that it is ‘heartbreaking’ to read stories about friendships that ended over bridal party drama.

‘I’ve known several people that had complaints about being in a wedding party,’ she said. ‘All of those complaints seemed to stem from a lack of clarity from the onset. This is why I wanted to be as transparent as possible.”